“Hypothetically,” I said, “if we could only have one more child, would you rather have a biological child or adopt a child?” I started this conversation in the car on the way home from a meeting with one of the adoption agencies we were looking into. This was something I had been thinking about and didn’t know how to go about asking Keith.
We had decided in January that we would “expand” our family. We decided to stop preventing pregnancy and, at the same time, pursue adoption. Open the door to both paths and leave it up to God as to which we take.
When Keith said he would rather adopt a child, I repeated my question changing only the number of kids: two…three. His answer was the same each time. We both felt like adoption was something God placed in our hearts for a reason, and for that reason we wouldn’t, and shouldn’t, attempt more biological children.
Short of having surgery, we both feel we're finished having kids (biologically). As Christians, all of us are called to care for orphans in some way. For us, adoption is God's calling on our lives to meet that need, as well as one of the most tangible expressions of the Gospel.